New Documentary Film Coming Fall 2019
What is Domestic Violence?
There is no one agreed-upon definition for domestic violence, as definitions are inconsistent between jurisdictions reporting statistics (i.e. city and county) as well as sectors (nonprofits, government, healthcare, etc.). Thus, a broad definition of domestic violence, also sometimes referred to as family violence is used and encouraged.
Domestic violence is violence or abuse in any form, by one person against another in a domestic (i.e. family) setting, and includes intimate partner violence which is one specific type of domestic violence. DV is a leading cause of homicides in Spokane County.
I am a victim
Recognize the signs of power and control in your relationship.
- Do they always make me feel like it is my fault when it may not be?
- Do they criticize me, controlling my appearance, and what I do?
- Do they isolate me from my family, friends, and coworkers?
- Do they show an extreme amount of jealousy?
- Do they mentally, verbally, sexually, or physically hurt me?
Understand that this is not your fault, and look for support.
- I can seek out someone I trust to let them know what is going on.
- I can determine if I am ready or wanting to leave.
- I can call or make an appointment with YWCA Spokane for help.
- I can ask a friend, family member, or coworker for help.
- I can make a safer plan with an advocate or trusted person to leave or upon staying.
I know a victim
Recognize the signs of Domestic Violence.
- Are they missing an unusual amount of work?
- Are they missing appointments?
- Are they isolating themselves from their everyday activities, family and friends?
- Are they showing up with bruises on their body?
- Are they expressing that their partner is showing a lot of control or jealousy?
- Are there signs that their partner is putting them down, hurting them, or making them feel crazy?
Respond by listening and supporting
- You can check in with them to see how they have been doing, asking if they feel safe.
- You can bring up what you have been noticing and express your concern to them.
- You can listen with empathy and an open mind.
- You can listen to understand and not to give your point of view.
- You can believe them.
- You can avoid victim-blaming comments. (Why don’t you just leave, etc.)
- You can empower them to explore and express what they feel is best for them.
- You can leave an open door for them, while still establishing your own boundaries.
Refer victim for further support.
I want to support victims
Recognize the reality of Domestic Violence:
- Learn about the rates of domestic violence locally and nationally.
- Learn about the dynamics of power and control within Domestic Violence.
- Recognize how Domestic Violence affects my community.
- Learn about toxic masculinity and root causes of oppression and how they intersect with Domestic Violence.
- Learn how to create healthier, safer culture in your community.
- Learn how to be a positive bystander for someone in your community.
How to impact the prevalence of Domestic Violence within the Community
- Request a Domestic Violence Training from the YWCA Spokane.
- Have a conversation with your friends/family about healthy relationships.
- Support your local victim service agency financially.
- Host a view party of "Violence Against Women, it’s a Men’s Issue”, or other impactful documentaries on Domestic Violence.
- Ask how your business can support a local victim service agency with clothing drives, events, fundraisers, or with awareness activities.
- Volunteer at a local victim service agency.
- You can be a positive bystander that doesn’t tolerate victim blaming statements.
- You can practice reinforcing positive masculinity.
I want to stop
If you or someone you know thinks their behavior is unhealthy, controlling or abusive and wants to change their pattern of behavior, please have them contact a certified domestic violence treatment provider.
About the Campaign
A group of Spokane community leaders came together with one mission in mind: Execute a local awareness campaign creating a Spokane culture of prevention and support for survivors of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, child abuse and stalking.